Be more Labrador…

Barney and Ben on their 14th birthday at Coniston, Cumbria

Just over a week ago one of my ancient Labradors, Barney 14 1/2 , suffered a stroke. Out on his late walk about 10:30 on a Saturday night. He quietly collapsed on the grass and was not able to get up again. My husband carried him home with his brother Ben following behind and laid him gently on the floor. It became obvious that he was very poorly, with a severe tilt to his head and his whole body stiff and unresponsive. We called the emergency vet and Nigel carried him out to the car. I said goodbye, because I honestly thought that he would not be coming back. I sat with Ben and waited.

But he did come home, after an anti-nausea injection. The vet said that he should come out of it after about 72 hours. So we propped him up, surrounded him with throws and cushions and waited. Nigel slept on the sofa for the first night. On Sunday we crept around him, managed to feed him some scrambled egg. Kept him clean. Worried if we were doing the right thing. On Monday he was a bit brighter. On Tuesday morning we came down and Barney was standing up!

10 days later and he is doing so well. He is slower and has a little tilt to his head, which is quite cute. He occasionally lurches to the left but is growing stronger and stronger, eating well and back on his walks.

I have been totally amazed by his spirit. He has always been a needy dog, his nickname is Eeyore, and he is going blind, which has added to his disorientation. But he has been quietly determined and never given up. True Labrador spirit.

On Saturday I saw a video from America’s Got Talent. An 11-year-old boy called Tyler-Butler Figueroa ventured onto the stage with light up shoes and clutching a violin. He told his story, of being diagnosed with leukaemia, bullied at school, and then taking up the violin when a teacher offered free lessons. And then he began to play. It was amazing. The energy and passion he poured into his performance spilled over into the audience and Simon Cowell pressed the golden buzzer to fast forward him into the finals. Another example of the triumph of spirit when faced with challenging and difficult circumstances.

I bet we all know of someone, who, when faced with the biggest challenge of their life, finds the strength and courage to do something completely incredible.

A thought struck me.

So often when we are faced with something really challenging and frightening, we find a way to turn the experience into something wonderful and inspirational. We dig deep into our boots and discover the drive to turn something negative and scary into something brave and good. Very often helping other people in the process.

But then when we are faced with smaller irritations, like driving home in heavy traffic, having to wait in a queue, or some of the many small perceived injustices that happen everywhere in our daily lives we react in a totally negative way. Letting stress spill out, retaliating with angry and violent words or behaviour, shouting, moaning, blaming. It has become normal for people to allow their stress to spill over onto social media, to treat people with disrespect and rudeness.

What if, and it is just an idea, what if we treated EVERY challenge with spirit, love and understanding. We could transform our world. Person by person. Street by street, Town by town. Until the whole world was a better place to live. Wouldn’t that be amazing.

I have often thought that we should all be more like Labradors. We chose Labradors for specific reasons. Their attitude is always positive. Sniff it, taste it, piddle on it. Simple philosophy. Their greatest concern is where their next snack is coming from. My two, find joy in everything they see, everything they do. They tackle each and every experience with gusto and passion, and they ALWAYS get enough sleep!

Ben and Barney at about 6 months

We know that our time with our two much beloved dogs is limited now. Whenever we tell anyone that they are 14 ½ they shake their heads and pronounce in subdued tones “That’s a good age for a lab”. There is one design fault in them and other dogs – they don’t live as long as we do! But when they go they will have lived life to the best of their ability. And they have loved. Oh how they have loved and been loved. We met them when they were six weeks old and they came to live with us when they were 12 weeks. They have made our world a better place.

Couldn’t we do the same with everyone we meet?

Be more Labrador. You know it makes sense.

With love xx

Here is the amazing performance from Tyler

It ain’t over till the fat lady swims…

Sometime in the murky depths of February I saw a sponsored post from Diabetes UK on Facebook. Swim the Channel, it proclaimed. In the comfort of your local pool! Raise money! Being a Type 2 diabetic myself, and with my daughter Zoe a Type 1 since she was 9, I was sufficiently curious to click on the link. I scrolled through the page and something inside me was ignited. At the same time the nasty little imp inside my head started laughing. “Swim the channel?” he asked “You? Hahahahaha!” For once I found enough courage to drown him out with positivity and carried on reading.

Before the imp could recover and start harassing me again, I signed up, just for half the distance. I could manage 11 miles I told myself. Swimming is easy, I will lose weight, my blood sugar will stabilize, and I will raise £200 for the charity. It will be wonderful, I need to exercise, I can do this!

Further spurred on by a conversation and a donation from Chris Evans on Virgin Radio I upped my game.

Celebrating 11 miles, half way!

Fast forward about 3 months. On Sunday I swam into Calais and stumbled up the beach to reward myself with a croissant. 22 miles and over £1000 raised for the charity that is so close to my heart.

Am I proud of myself? You bet I am. I can honestly say that this is both the worst and the best thing that I have EVER done.

I knew that physically this would be hard. I am 60 years old, overweight, diabetic, totally unfit with little or no core strength in my body. I had some major expectations of my marathon swim. I believed I would lose a lot of weight. I believed that my diabetic blood sugar readings would drop to a healthier level. I believed it would get easier. In reality, I did drop a dress size, but I didn’t lose weight. My blood sugar readings were all over the place, not helped by the fact that I was really hungry most of the time! I think that perhaps my body was somewhat confused by a regular and consistent exercise routine and it just could not figure out when I needed glucose to keep my muscles going! I also hurt. At every point one of those muscles ached. My back, my knees, even my elbows! My skin shriveled and I broke out in spots. My feet were dry and cracked. A whiff of chlorine followed me wherever I went. As for my hair…where did I put my wig?

But at the end of the challenge I do feel better. I can walk further and faster than before I started, and I don’t get breathless.

What I was not prepared for was the effect of the challenge on my mental and emotional health.

The first day that I got into the pool I aimed for swimming 10 lengths. I managed 20 with several rest stops. At that point I figured out how many lengths I would have to swim to reach 11 miles if I only swam 20 lengths each swim. Just about doable I thought.

By the end of the swim I was routinely swimming a minimum of 34 lengths (1/2 mile) per session with only one or two short pauses. A couple of times I managed a whole mile!

I discovered a determination and a resilience that I really did not know I had in me. Even on the days when I just did not want to get in the water, I dragged my sorry arse to the pool and got in. I persevered despite several incidents of swimming snobbery. On one occasion I was told that I was too slow for the slow lane! She was probably right.

But. I showed up, gritted my teeth and just did it. Kept doing it.

I also reconnected mentally with my body. It likes to be exercised. My physical wellbeing connects with my mental wellbeing. It feels good (apart from the chlorine!)

My husband Nigel came with me every Sunday and I was so grateful, but the rest of the time I was pretty much alone with my thoughts and there were days when I just knew that I did not have a hope in hell of ever reaching France. Those days were the hardest and I remember one day just crying all the way and getting out of the pool with barely enough energy to dry myself. But I dug deep, learned to focus and just kept going.

Time and again I convinced myself that I would not finish the challenge. That I was not strong enough, or good enough to finish. But I was spurred on by my team of cheerleaders on Facebook who responded to every Facebook Live with words of encouragement and who sponsored me and kept me going. There was also an incredibly supportive Facebook group where people cheered each other on and shared their up and downs. I also had the support of a couple of lifeguards at the pool who cheered me on when they were working.

Thank you to EVERYONE who helped me reach my goals. I could not have done it without you all.

To wrap up, here are some of the things I have learned from this grand adventure.

  • Start with one length, one step, one breath
  • If you think you can’t, you won’t
  • If you need support, ask for it, there is always someone willing to help
  • Remember your underwear
  • Moisturise, and stay hydrated!
  • Laugh at yourself…often
  • Never underestimate yourself, you are amazing!
  • Enjoy the croissant!

This challenge has made me stronger, braver, happier. The lessons I have learned have changed me. They will make me a better human being. A better coach.

Will I do it again? Well, once I have taken a brief break from the chlorine, I will continue swimming a couple of times a week, and I am planning some other exercise. But swimming the channel? I’m not sure. Ask me next February!

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